Are You Part of the Solution or…. Vol #2

“I’m trying to find a suitable companion,” my girlfriend insisted.. “I don’t think you would know what a suitable companion looked like, if he were to knock on your front door..” I replied.

In terms of having a committed and healthy relationship, it seems in many cases that our “standards” are set extremely high! So, I have to ask a few logical questions… Are YOU ready for a formidable relationship? Additionally, do YOU demonstrate and have evidence of “ALL” the qualities that you are looking for in a “suitable” companion?


Let’s first and foremost address your readiness ~

Do you respect yourself.. enough? This is important, because if you don’t respect yourself enough, why would you expect a potential companion to give YOU respect that you desire and deserve? It’s a tough question, but a question that one needs to take very seriously!

Do you LOVE yourself.. enough? Be lovingly happy in the skin that you’re in! Love yourself so much, that it shouldn’t matter if you entertain a companion or not! A healthy relationship is a partnership that thrives on challenges that you can collectively overcome. Other positive attributes may include lots of Laughter and the ability to have constructive debates, while enjoying each others company! I remember my Parents having such a relationship! How blessed they were!

Now, let’s address the desired must haves in a companion~

Well, these requirements also begin with you!! Are you also independent, confident, fiscally responsible, funny, emotionally and spiritually grounded and able to communicate your thoughts, ideals and emotions in a way that is not perceived as combative? Again, tough questions; however we attract what we want, by being the women that we have become! To know Better, is to do Better! To do Better is to want Better… wanting more is your birthright! Make certain that you attract an asset, an emotional connection , a loving partnership.. and not a liability full of angst and drama.

“When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”Maya Angelo

Remember, you are striving to be part of the SOLUTION and you are also an unofficial mentor to many other young women that admire your style. Please know that it matters not, if you have a “suitable” companion right now. ALWAYS Respect and Love yourself  and leave the rest to timing!

8 thoughts on “Are You Part of the Solution or…. Vol #2


    “EXPECTATIONS” ( first cousin to “requirements”) can be a tricky concept. Another two-way indicator which can expose who we really are. Do we expect more from others than we intend to give of ourselves ? This includes all of the many facets that come together in a solid, progressive relationship.
    Lisa, thanks again for your encouragement in this open forum.


  2. I am in agreement with your blog. The one thing that worries me is one line “Make certain that you attract an asset and not a liability!” That can be considered a put down. If someone who could be an asset is down for the moment is he an a…set or liability. Not clear, our society is instant gratification on most things. i.e. people want a man or woman that they can fall in love with and get everything without having to work on a “relationship”. Nobody wants to work on things anymore or for that matter work towards it, therefore the possibilities of broken marriages and relationships come into play. I maybe wrong but thats just my thought. Great blog we all need to repost
    August 9 at 12:45am ·


  3. Helen DiBenedetto

    Enjoyed reading your insights, Lisa. Relationships are the most complicated things in the world, fraught with expectations developed during our upbringing, from our friends & through the daily onslaught from the media. The more we develop ourselves, as you suggest, the more we can come closer to a better understanding of what type of partner will best compliment our strong qualities & help us to minimize our weaker ones.

    “You have a suitable companion right now.” Yourself!


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s